Sunday, May 31, 2009

Come What May

Last month we had a surprise early birthday celebration for Khai Yin in Pyramid. She was actually attending her graduation ceremony at Sunway Convention Centre and didn't suspect a thing! So everything went according to plan which was good. Or more or less according to plan. ^_^

We were waiting for her at Sakae Sushi under the pretence of having a small primary school gathering. So when her boyfriend showed up with an ice-cream cake, she was very shocked. All thanks to the amazing planning of the organizer- Ri Hao.

There. Yummylicious cake! And a very happy couple. ;)

Now, me, Kai Jie and Siok Yean had to go earlier because we had specific instructions by Ri Hao to go and buy KY's present. Since KY got a very er... interesting birthday present for Ri Hao last year, it was time for revenge in his case. (Read about it in my old blog --> sidebar) Besides, he managed to record her saying that she'd wear anything he bought her. So yeah. He was letting her listen to the evidence. Hehe.

Hoho. The present. She was a bit apprehensive after hearing the recorded convo. And yesh, we were using our chopsticks to eat ice-cream cake. Lack of better utensils. Plus Sakae Sushi staff are damn slow and blur. I am gonna offend a lot of people again but...I really don't like Sakae Sushi la. Sorry larh. Sushi Zan Mai is like 100 times better than Sakae Sushi in terms of food and service. But then again I just had Rakuzen yesterday so I might be a bit biased. The food there was insanely yummylicious. ;P

TA-DA! This was our hard work okay. We walked around Pyramid for close to 2 hours before finding this dress. Went into SO many shops and they didn't have anything suitable. Ri Hao wanted a super sexy dress that would grab attention and would be suitable for clubbing. You'd think that'd be easy to find right? WRONG. Even fail-safe Forever 21 where we gave Ka-Yee all those sexy clothing makeovers failed me that day!! Thank goodness Ms. Selfridge saved the day. *Phew!*

I swear, things always appear when you don't need them and when you do, they magically dissapear. Meh.

That was her, opening her present.

There we go! Sexayyy Khai Yin! She'd look even sexier without the tube. *grins*

The birthday girl and I.

Well, I hope she wears the dress! KY, do you hear me? Wear the dress!! Surprises are always so much fun! A bit stressful to plan but when you see the look the surprised person's face, instant rewards! On a sadder note, Ri Hao's going to Australia soon so we have one less crazily fun person in our group planning all these awesome gatherings and keeping our friendship stronger than ever. Sigh, I am gonna miss his sarcastic remarks during gatherings.
3 posts in a month. Definite improvement lehh. =P
Last watched movie- Revolutionary Road

I thought the ending was so ironic! As we all know, this is the first movie that Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet star in together since Titanic. And in Titanic, Leo dies and Kate lives; in this movie, Kate dies and Leo lives. Ironic kan? That aside, their acting was superb and I guess this movie says a lot about life, relationships, marriage and ambitions- finding out what you really want in life. I've always like Leo coz I think he's a great actor, but after watching this and The Reader, I think I'm adding Kate Winslet into my favourite actress list too. ;)
On another note, since we're talking about birthdays:
Another one that will be leaving soon. I'm gonna miss you larh woman. =(

Friday, May 29, 2009

Happily Ever After

Girls have been indoctrinated by society believe that everyone will eventually have their happily ever after and that we should all wait for our Prince Charming to come and sweep us off our feet and ride off into the sunset . It’s incorporated into every Disney cartoon we’ve been made to watch since we can remember; every fairytale that’s been told to us as bedtime stories since we were young. And even now, as cynical as we may be, as realistic we have become, some small part of us still believes and hopes that we will be swept off our feet by The One. That’s right, the belief that somewhere out there, there’s this perfect guy for us all. And of course, he is the one that will give us our happily ever after through marriage. It is every girl’s dream- that big, white wedding.

But what happens after? What happens after the happily ever after? When things start to fall into a routine, when problems start to arise, when the person who we thought would give us that happy ending changes. Will love still prevail then?

I find too many women settle. They settle for whatever they have at the time due to various reasons. Pressure would one of the main reasons I think. When all your friends are off getting married and starting to have babies, you’d feel so left out. It may sound stupid now, but really the pressure is quite intense. When everyone is asking you whether or not you’re getting married soon and your own biological clock is ticking, you settle. Fear is another one. What if you break up with him now but can’t find another boyfriend after? Better to just continue. If it ain’t broken, why fix it right? Even if you don’t feel the sparks anymore, even if you realize that ultimately you and him seem better off as friends than lovers.

And that’s the root of most marital problems I think. That, and the fact that everyone takes forgranted of their other half. They forget that it’s the little things that matter. The simple I Love You-s, the habitual hugs and kisses that lets your partner know how much you appreciate them. Why do all these seem so common when people are dating, yet they dwindle off when people are married? The passion, the fire, where has it all gone?

And so, women turn a blind eye to their cheating husbands loveless marriages. Out of duty as a wife and mostly to their children. Especially in Asian societies. Ignorance is bliss but is feigned ignorance the same? I have seen so many, too many in fact, marriages that are not based on love anymore but a sense of duty to the kids. And they think the kids will sense that nothing is wrong. Oh, how naïve all these people are!

And of course, money. The main thing that holds most marriages together. The root of all evil indeed but all the same, it makes the world go round and people happy.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, in the future when we contemplate whether or not to say ‘I Do’, remember the consequences of those two words. Remember that this is the rest of your life. Messy divorces not factored in of course. Remember that you should be able to accept you partner for who they are and love them unconditionally. Remember that when you’re old and grey, you actually want someone that you’d be able to talk to. Remember that this arduous journey called life is meaningless unless we have someone to share it with. And make sure, that someone is the one you’re getting married to. Otherwise, it is rather pointless isn’t it?

So this is my note to my future self. My little reminder on my own happily ever after which is yet to come if I am blessed enough to enjoy one. On my last outing with Wee, she reminded me that I should find someone that would match my awesomeness, and settle for nothing less. Well, I fully agree. Let that be a reminder for every girl out there: You are awesome, and the person you’re with should totally appreciate your awesome-ness. Otherwise, he’s just not worth your time. He should accept you for who you are and you should never be belittled or made to feel inferior. It is my belief that for marriage to work and love to prevail, you should see each other as equals. Maybe not physically, but intellectually and emotionally.

Anyway, I attended two weddings in December last year. I sincerely hope that they find their happily ever after-s.

Staphanie and Jason's wedding

This was my first proper church wedding that I attended.

The church was pretty big and air-conditioned. Very cool.

Adorable flower girls. However, one of them got scared while walking down the aisle and started crying. The other had to pull her along. Awww.

My sister was the maid of honour. She looks lovely doesn't she? Her best friend was the bride.
Sorry for the poor quality pictures. I was still using my Casio at the time.

The pastor gave this speech that I totally did not agree with- about how women should submit to men and respect them. That respect comes before love and many other appaling things. But even worse was the people there actually AGREED with him and his views on women and were nodding their heads. Sigh, but I shall not mention it here lah. It is supposed to be a happy occassion after all.

Her dress with the super long train. I'm telling you guys now larh, if you want me to be one of your bridesmaids, please don't wear dresses with long trains however princessessy and fairytale esque it is. I don't want to spend every 5 minutes adjusting your train and making sure no one steps on it, including the groom. I am offending a lot of people by saying this hor? I forsee my name being cut off from the bidesmaids list liao but nevermind, I will still be happy to attend as a guest. ;)

The sisters.

Went to Coffe Bean after that to have a drink and get breakfast. Yummylicious-ness!

Pei Tze and Denzil's wedding

My cousin sister got married. :)

At the church waiting for the ceremony to start.

My cousin Michelle, who was the bridesmaid, and I at Jarrod & Rowlins for the wedding lunch.
Food was good!

Pre-dinner drinks before the wedding dinner.

And this was during the wedding dinner.

I am FINALLY done with all my assignments for the semester. It has been really a really hectic one I must say. Now I have to prepare for finals which are looming. Good Luck to everyone okay?

Currently reading- Grass For His Pillow by Lian Hern


This is the second book in the Tales of the Otori series. My father's business friend's wife (complex eh?) gave me the complete set as a gift after she found out I liked reading. So generous of her. She insisted that this series was one of her personal favourites because it was a really good read and I must say I agree with her. Check it out if you have the time. Highly recommended. Sigh, and this is what I've been doing. Reading storybooks from morning till night when I should be studying like Kit Mun. I just don't learn do I? I can't help it lorh, once I start reading, I cannot put the book down wan. To the extent that my mom had to confisticate my storybooks when exams rolled around when I was younger. It runs in the family larh. My sister and I are all bookworms at heart.
Last watched movies- The Host & The Fast and The Furious 4
The former because I had to watch it for Film Studies since one of the exam questions will be based on that. I was a little apprehensive at first since it was labelled horror and we all know how much I love horror films. But it turned out to be not scary but filled with lots of ideologies. I still find it amazing how a seemingly B grade Korean monster movie turned out to have awesome character development and many, many ideologies embedded within it which made it kind of interesting really. Now I understand why it won so many awards.
The latter I watched it again because I like the Fast and Furious series (I'm a sucker for fast cars, sue me) plus I had to supervise some guys who were doing some renovation work and had nothing to do all by myself. Adele came and teman-ed me after that for which I am grateful! Thank you darling Adele!
I really need to start studying larh. Make me feel guilty and yell and at me to study when you guys see me online. Maybe that'll help. Heh. ;P
Toodles for now.
Eh wait, TWO posts in a month leh. Got improvement liao. ^_^

Thursday, May 7, 2009

What Can I Do

Hmm. The trend seems to be a post a month eh?
I try! I really do. =/

Anyway, I'm currently buried 6 feet under with assignments in addition to being as sick as a dog coz of this horrible sore throat that hurts everytime I swallow. Hence, I'm gonna talk about something mindless that makes me happy to take my mind of things, like... manicures & pedicures!! =)

I can't remember when I started going for mani/pedi-s but I remember it was my eldest sis who got me hooked! She brought me to Bangsar Village 2, Chic Nail Spa by Soong Ai Ling and to this day, it's still the place I go to when I want my nails to look pretty.

The thing about manicures and pedicures is that if you don't start doing it, you don't see what the fuss is. But once you start, you can't stop! The feeling of looking at your nails all buffed, neat and with no dead skin just gives one a feeling of immense satisfaction!

And of course choosing the different colours makes me feel like a little kid in the candy store again- a little overwhelmed but yet supremely happy and excited.
You might be thinking:"All this over nail colour?"
But really it's one the most relaxing things you can do to pamper yourself and indulge in life's little luxuries.
Besides you don't have to do it often, just once a month or once in two months is pretty good.
In addition to that, if a girl takes care of her nails it says a lot about her. It means that she takes time to care for herself and wants to present herself in the best way she can.
And by that I don't mean those bimbotic girls who have nails so long, holding a cup might just break them clean off. *rolls eyes*
I mean girls who have clean, neat, trimmed, shaped nails instead of girls who have chipped, uneven, dirty fingernails.
The former would so much better to look at right?
So without further ado, let me show you my favourite manicure of all time...

TA-DA! Drawn on my Soong Ai Ling herself. She really is really super talented with nail art!

See the amount of detail? So awesome! Imagine how steady one's hand must be to do that! :0

I wouldn't say this is my favourite pedicure of all time but I can't seem to find the older pics of my mani/pedi-s so yeah, I'll just post the recent ones. =) It is still pretty cool.

My favourite colours for toe nails are dark purple and dark blue in case you were wondering!

If you guys want to try something new, try those two colours! You won't regret it.

And this is my second favourite manicure of all time. The snowflake was just really cute (not to mention incredibly hard to draw since it was so tiny 0_o).

Again drawn by Soong Ai Ling herself. She's pretty awesome. I highly recommend going to her shop if you ever want to get your nails done.

Sigh, I supposed I should go do something productive now. IF (note: IF) I can wean myself off doing mindless things like playing Pet Society and watching Gossip Girl. Damn!

Currently listening to- Nan Quan Mama

Currently hooked on- Gossip Girl Season 2

Currently addicted to- Pet Society

Last watched film- Elephant (it's an experimental film we had to watch for Film Studies. Very interesting camera angles and the usage of long takes and stuff. A lot of people found it weird but I thought it was pretty cool and realistic in a sense.)

So there you have it! A little update on my life. =)